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Stop Child Sex Abuse
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My first thoughts on this topic are recent events in the news headlines. The
young 11 year old Florida girl Carlie Brucia. She was kidnapped at the car wash.
They had it on video from the security camera in plane daylight. The man walks
up, appears to possibly have a weapon. Grabs her arm and away she goes. It took
less than just a moment. She was passing through the parking lot on her way home
from school. Look at the still picture from captured security camera to the left. Look at the horrible and severe concern on
Carlie's
face. This could be your daughter. Your niece. This is the last picture of her
alive. Her remains were
discovered behind the Central Church of Christ near Interstate 75 in Sarasota,
Florida. I am sure he told her everything was going to be ok only if she came peacefully. In the video she doesn't appear to resist or put up a fight. I do not say this disrespectfully because I can't imagine how terrified and afraid she was. Seeing that video and those last moments of a chance disappear gives me deep sadness and pain. I pray for her parents, family and friends for their loss. It is not the loved ones fault. The blame rests on the criminal and it is his soul responsibility. Carlie will see God up in heaven and one day be reunited with her family and friends. This man will be judged by God and spend eternity suffering as it should be. I don't know how I would have reacted. You never truly know how you are going to react until it happens. As an adult my first thoughts are I would just as well have died right there at the car wash. The chance of a possible witnesses or at least more inconvenience to the bad guy. As an adult I know what would be waiting for me if I went peacefully. How can you explain this nightmare scenario to children? Perhaps the answer lies in what children do best. Consider the phenomena of being at the store with children or anywhere in public. Kids have the keen sense to know when and what they can get away with. Consider the feelings of embarrassment, helplessness and out of control feelings as an adult when you finally lay down the law and your kids roll around on the floor kicking and screaming "don't spank me"! Tell your kids that if someone was trying to harm them it is perfectly ok. Practice this skill with your kids when it is appropriate and when it is not. These adult feeling of out of control of the situation, helplessness and obvious attention getting could thwart an abduction. Or at the very least give your kids the very best last chance. I think it is important to know thy enemy. How well do you know those people around you and around your children? Why would anyone ever want to harm a child anyway? These sex offenders are children themselves. They are hurt children in a grown ups body. They were molested or came from dysfunctional families. Something happened to them. As an adult they have a choice to make. Get help for their sick thoughts or give in to their sick fantasies. If they do not seek help then they have chosen their end. They will never fill that empty hole that makes them what they are. I do not pity them. They are evil monsters. They do not belong living in this world.
These sick people have the cleverness of an adult to outwit a child but are immature and ignorant and eventually get caught. Up till they get caught they are arrogantly and completely convinced they will not get caught. That is what they later tell the psychologist's after they get caught. Their arrogance is their Achilles tendon. When they eventually do get caught it is just the tip of the iceberg. It is not just something they woke up and decided to do one day. They have been testing the waters and perfecting their skills for some time. They are perfected evil. Experimenting little by little with children and their own fantasies. The get a little bit more bolder, more dangerous and evil day by day. How big an iceberg and how mountainous the pile of children they have harmed depends on what point in their journey they get caught. If they are not stopped they will continue and increasingly harm children. As time goes by they get more and more dangerous and lethal. They will not stop so we must stop them. The bottom line with these abnormal's is that they ain't all there. Just take a look into their past. It becomes all to clear after the fact how obvious they have avoided the radar and drifted around. Because of their immaturity and lack of social skills these freaks have difficulty adjusting in the adult world. They self consciously lack intimacy and respect with adult peers. They can't communicate with adults normally but crave a child's unconditional sincere affection and love. Like an alcoholic needs alcohol to make themselves feel normal these child sex offenders need a childish mentality closer to their own to effectively feel loved. They relish their new found success of skills in controlling children unlike their failures at normalcy with adults.
They like the attention given to them. The smiles and excitement sincerely seen on these children's faces unlike their pathetic unsuccessful relationships with adults. They like the touching, bouncing, hugs and kisses. Just like what is absent in their life. Then come the thoughts of fulfilling relational and sexual intimacies just like what is missing in their life. Eventually they act on their fantasies. They get hungry for more and crave for fulfillment. This however will never happen. They have a problem and don't realize it. They blame society and those around them to justify their actions. When they do get caught they must be punished and stopped by society and government before they harm more children. Unlike Carlie, most children that are abused know the offender. How factually well do you know the past of those around you? They say they came from town X but do you know any family, friends or acquaintances to factually confirm this or the life they had before moving? Is this their new start to escape their past? Trust your instincts. Even if you have an open relationship with your children work towards having a better open relationship. Ask your children the difficult questions and explain to them what they must know to protect themselves. It is painful. Very painful and very awkward but it must be done. Educate yourself and realize it is never to early to start explaining to your children what is inappropriate behavior. Teach children they are special and have the right to be safe and what that means. They have the right to say no to an adult trying to harm them. For help to stop child sex abuse follow the links below. I have gone to these different pages and there is a wealth of quality information. These pages make it easier to explain to your children the what and the how. Carlie Brucia was eleven years old when she was abducted. I am sure her parents talked to her about being safe and probably nothing could have prevented such a horrible outcome. But, have you even begun to talk to your children yet? Please hear me. If your children can understand words it is never to early.
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